Intentional-ish

As a wife and mother, I've got some game- if you need someone to coordinate a holiday meal, conquer an impossible to-do list, blitz clean a house, or drill multiplication tables, I'm your girl (wow- fun).  I also have many, many gaps (home decor, rest, general fashion, managing expectations, shutting up).  You just can't be all things to all people in all situations- being a mother to many teaches you that early and often.  My go-to tactic when I know I'm in the weeds?  When I know one of my kids needs something from me that I just.... don't have?  Don't know how to do well?  Don't know how to give authentically?   I borrow.  I have family and friends with such incredible skill sets- when someone needs something from me that I just don't have to give, I borrow their skills.   I have a dear childhood friend who has always radiated confidence- I saw in her what has never come naturally to me.   Luckily for me, she wears he...

I have a theory (I'm kidding.  I have a thousand.  Here's one).  In and amidst our achievements and adventures, we live our fundamental day again and again.  Between the highlights and the crises, we have heavily developed patterns and rhythms we barely notice as we live them. These days are either slowly building up our sense of well-being, or slowly, ever so slowly eroding it. The good news is, a small fix daily is 365 small doses of goodness a year.  One small change feeds you again and again and again. The bad news?  Those rough interactions with your loved ones, that defeatist self talk swirling in your mind, the numbing behaviors sneaking in (scrolling, scrolling, scrolling), all chip away at your foundation of well-being.  We can fix this- I promise, we can.  When I pause long enough to really consider the effects of daily feelings, emotions, interactions, and work- it is always, always worth the time and effort to improve them. I c...