Intentional-ish

You and I don't talk nearly enough. I'll admit... I don't know *exactly* what you do for work.  I don't know your kids and and I've never met your husband.  I'm watching your days unfold in quick notes and photographs, and I am thrilled to see you building your life .  I couldn't wait to hear all about your wedding, pouring over photos as they trickled in- I was on the edge of my seat miles and miles away when I knew you were due with your children, waiting to hear of their safe arrival. I applaud you from afar and cheer your successes and watch your children grow.  I grieve your hurts... but I know I'm missing some important pains- some struggles and setbacks and anxieties that I would only know if I was there.  There with you... day in and day out swapping help and Starbucks where I know your order.... down to no whip (but I know you really want whip.  So you get whip). In reality, we are friends from a bygone chapter- tied together at a time whe

It's important for you to know.... my husband is a good man.  A good, quiet, solid man of simple tastes and pleasures.  And yet, somehow, he has managed to love an incredible number and variety of women both before and during our marriage.  A few of them are detailed below.   Years ago he met a (very) young woman, and the way he told me this story, he was immediately, permanently smitten.  She had a corporate job and pencil skirts, sky-high kelly green heels and heavy black eyeliner.  Drinks, dinner, a first date to remember as the connection made between them was instantaneous and couldn't be ignored.  He said she was sharp- almost radiated energy.  He'd pick her up from the airport after weekly work trips. He couldn't wait for her to get a taxi to meet him.  He told me THIS was his first true love.  When I hear this story, I'm envious of her and the effect she had on him. I've seen pictures of another woman he met in graduate school- the photo I reme